Tuesday, February 5, 2013

This One's For the Men: The Witching Hour

Today's post is written by one of my wonderful daughters-in-law, Abby Fleming. Of course, she's not actually talking about my darling grandchildren in this post. She's being hypothetical...

4:52. That is when my knight in shining armor comes home. Don't get me wrong, I love being a stay at home mom. I believe it is one of the most important jobs in the world, and I take it very seriously. 


Nevertheless, around 4 o'clock, I start getting more and more interested in the time. Not that I really need a clock to tell me. I could easily calculate it by the decibel of my son's cry, the length of my daughter's whine, and the decreasing breadth of my patience.



“The Witching Hour.” Before kids, we smile at the term. After kids, our tensions rise at hearing it. What is it that transforms my sweet tempered little girl into one long whine adhered securely to my leg? How does my easy going, content son know that the time has come to see how well his little lungs work? It's the mystery of the Witching Hour.


Moms are always trying to come up with some solution to this universal problem. Enter the Crockpot Mom who carefully plans ahead and makes her meals in the morning when her children are still cheerful and pleasant. I wish I could be a Crockpot mom... I really do. But one way or another, the morning always disappears, and I find I have a crockpot recipe and not enough hours left in the day to cook it. Well then, the Cook Everything Ahead Mom? I get jealous of her. She takes one day and prepares all the meals for the week. I don't know how she does it. What with: “Whoa! Someone needs a diaper change!”, “Please, do not sit on your brother”, “Sure, I can read you Good Night, Moon (for the 5th time today)”, it takes me an hour just to make a grilled cheese sandwich.


So what's my solution to the Witching Hour? At exactly 4:52 every evening (and it better not be 4:53!), my husband comes home and saves the day. He tames our little dragons and soon, instead of whining and crying in the kitchen, I hear giggles and shrieks of laughter in the living room. The Witching Hour is defeated, and I am free to make dinner in peace.


Dads- it takes a real man to come to his wife's rescue after a long day's work. It would be so easy to claim the right to sit on the couch, relax, and let your wife deal with the kids. The man who puts that right aside for the love of his wife and kids brings joy and peace to his family every evening. He is a hero. A knight in shining armor.  



Tell us: How do you handle "The Witching Hour"?




Abby Fleming graduated from Emmaus Bible College with a Bachelor's Degree in Elementary Education and Biblical Studies. Also at Emmaus, she met and married Daniel Fleming. They have been married almost 7 years now and have a beautiful 21 month old daughter, Anna, and a 3 month old son, Kenneth. After the birth of their daughter, Abby and Daniel decided she would quit her job in education and work instead as a full time Mommy. Currently, Abby and her husband are living in the Chicago area as he pursues further education.




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31 comments:

  1. It's so strange that kids get grumpy in the evening, isn't it? I usually give my daughter a small snack and now that she's a little older (20 months) I let her "help" me make dinner. :)

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    1. My daughter loves to "help" too. :) I should let her more often.

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    2. My daughter loves "helping" too :)

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  2. I remember that when it was meal time, it seems that babies have a tendency to want to nurse and interupt dinner hour. I don't know if they wmell the food or what it is but it seems to happen a lot of time.
    I have no answers to that but I do have a simple meal that is quick.It was passed on to me by a friend years ago. We called it Gooble D Gosh
    1 lb ground beef
    one onion
    Brown the meat with the onion.
    Add: one can mushroom soup
    one can of peas with juice
    one can of tomato soup
    one can of mushroom
    one can of black olives if you like
    Heat it up until it's hot
    We served it over mashed potatoes or noodles. Our preference was potatoes.If you are in a hurry use instant potatoes. Yum

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  3. And they are winding up and getting ornery and stress-inducing just in time for Daddy to walk in the door from work to sheer chaos - even if by some miracle we have managed to have a relatively calm day up to that point. It is amazing they even come home!

    I have no solutions, 'cause I'm right there with you on the hour-to-make-a-grilled-cheese-sandwich thing. And having had to go gluten-free, about 99% of our quick dinner options have vanished. :/ Building back up my repertoire of quick meals that I can actually eat is at the top of my priority list!

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    1. That gluten free stuff makes life difficult, doesn't it?

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  4. Indeed! :o) My hubby gets home around 6:30pm, and those last couple hours feel longer than the whole rest of the day. Thanks, Abby!
    I have an almost-one-year-old {in two weeks...yikes! where did my baby go?!}, and my #1 tip is : include him!
    It's tough, it takes 3x as long, it's messier...but oh! the happy baby and sweet memories that result. It is truly amazing what you can do with one hand...I mixed pizza dough up "single-handedly" for the first time the other night.
    Plus, if I include him in everything I possibly can, when I DO have to set him down {while I do something that's difficult or dangerous to do with a child in-arms}, I don't feel guilty and he doesn't feel abandoned ~ even if his dramatics indicate otherwise! I just chalk it up to character-building. :o)

    I also plan ahead so I know what I'm going to be making for dinner {it's amazing how much easier it is to cope with a fussy baby when there is already a plan in place}, I clean/straighten up thro'out the day so there are only last-minute messes to pick up before Daddy gets home, I work on supper while Marshall Paul eats his afternoon snack {so that he can sit in his highchair and watch}, I keep toys/Tupperware in the kitchen, and I simplify my home and schedule as much as possible.

    I'm sure I'll have to modify my strategy when we have two kids, but for now, this has worked for me!

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    1. It's good advice. I normally include my daughter when I'm baking earlier in the day, and she enjoys it so much. Of course, most of the ingredients end up on the floor... but it is worth it. :) I will try to include her more during dinner also. I do take full advantage of the Tupperware drawer too. :P

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  5. While I still struggle with the witching hour, there are some things I've found that work. I have a 5 yr old boy, 3 yr old girl and 10 mo old learning to walk, and my hubby gets home just as dinner is getting on the table at 6. I'll set the older two at the table with activity sheets, playdough, scissors & paper, or coloring pages. The baby is usually starving at the point, so he has finger foods in his high chair, my 'bigs' are more than happy to keep him fed. If all else fails (or my patience fails), the tv goes on. That's been happening too much lately, and I need to get my self into gear, give it to God, and get purposeful about my attitude and occupying my kids.

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  6. New follower from Friendship Friday. I was working outside the home for most of my children's pre-school years. For the first time in years, DH will be go to Texas (to help out his mother after her husband has an operation) and we will be separated for a week or two. The kids and I will remain at home, because we have a dog, a cat and 6 puppies to take care of.

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  7. I have two boys, 3yrs ,and 22 months! My witching hour lasts all day.

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    1. Haha, yes, you sound busy! My little girl is so calm and peaceful... I'm wondering what my boy will be like when he can get around!

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  8. Such adorable kiddos....even with the tears!

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    1. Totally agree! I even like the crying pics, because I know their sadness is so minute and usually so easily taken care of. I've had the privilege of stopping the cries of both of them and it's such a wonderful feeling to be able to comfort them.

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  9. I love this!! What a great gift for the hubby to give and get!! Time for Mom to cook and enjoy hearing her children's laughter and time for Daddy to make the laughter!! Sweet!!!

    PS I couldn't answer your comment on Freedom Fridays via email because it shows you are a no reply commentor:( But Freedom Fridays goes live about 6:30PM mst. Not sure why you couldn't see it last night before you went to bed:( (did you go to bed very early, LOL! Just kidding:) humm So sorry:( But thanks for hopping back over and always many thanks for sharing at Freedom Fridays Blog Hop:)

    Also now Following via Twitter

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    1. I didn't go to bed THAT early! But maybe I just checked earlier and thought it was before I went to bed later.

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  10. I remember well that very hour of the day and how I desperately waited for it. It's hard to ever forget the relief that comes when daddy walks in the door to squeals of joy, takes over the kids, and leaves mommy to enjoy a well deserved moment of peace!

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  11. Oh yes. I hear you loud and clear. My husband gets home around 5:15 and while he is super good with helping with the kids, I try to have dinner ready when he gets home. Occasionally, I get some things in the crockpot, but mostly I rely on sitting my kids on the counter so they can "help". It takes WAY longer, but it seems as long as they are up there with me, they are happy. I hope they are learning something too!

    Visiting from Melo Momma link up!

    Lindsey @ GrowingKidsMinistry.com

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  12. I am so lucky to have a son-in-law can and does still rescue my daughter! Even at 8 1/2 Amara still gets "difficult" just before Daddy arrives to save the day. Just stopping by from the Say it Saturday Linky Party. Thanks for sharing!

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  13. That is what I always called it too and yes thank God my husband would help me if he was home. Sometimes he was not because of overtime. I fell in love with Barney back then and would pop in a tape back in those days. Now I have a four year old but there is always a big sister to help out. Can you imagine the poor single mom with no one to help out at those rough times?

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    1. Having children has given me an awe of single moms. I really have no idea how they do it....

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  14. Aaargh! I know exactly what your on about! I have heard it called the witching hour too. One consolation is, it means it's not too long to go for bed time. Partners are knights in armour for sure!

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  15. Oh, the witching hour! When will it end> My daughter is three, and we still are dealing with it! I have tried the crock pot method, the ordering out method and the who cares about dinner method! The witching hour is still lingering! My husband works from home. So when he comes downstairs at 5:00 I practically throw myself at his feet!! I am happy to see him too, but it is very sweet in how happy my little girl is to see him!

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  16. Oh the witching hour. My husband works long day, he leaves by 6am and doesn't get home until around 7pm. I joke that I am a great stay at home until about 4pm and then I am ready for a break! I long for the day where my husband can come home a bit earlier!

    Thanks for sharing your favorite post at Raising Imperfection! We feature our favorites on Friday, make sure to come back and check.
    Leslie
    www.violetimperfection.com

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    1. Haha, yes, I'm a great stay at home mom until they take away my sleep.... That sounds really tough having your husband work such long hours.

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  17. What a wonderful gift from your husband!

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  18. Happy Monday.
    Visit from The Inspire Me Monday Community.
    Nan
    www.blogshe.net

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  19. Such a delight for you AND your husband. My son-in-law manages my two grandsons very similarly during the "witching hour." Great guest post! So glad to see it linked in the GRAND Social. Thank you!

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