Do you appreciate your husband?
Probably a better question would be: Does your husband know how much you appreciate him?
And a second good question would be: Do your children know how much you appreciate him?
Tomorrow--Husband Appreciation Day--would be a great time to let the world know!
What's that? Are you grousing about holidays invented by card companies and candy makers to increase sales? If that's your pet peeve, don't give them the satisfaction. Show your husband in more personal ways how much you appreciate him. (Of course, I'm hoping you both appreciate each other and find ways to show it, but we know we can all start taking the people we love for granted. So take some time to make a difference.)
Here are a few ideas, which of course include some you can do while around the table.
- Dress for him--i.e. not sweats and a hair twisted into a jaw clip without benefit of a brush. Jeans and a flattering t-shirt are enough. Consider a bit of mascara, even though it is Saturday.
- Make him breakfast--When I was growing up my dad made waffles, pancakes, or french toast on Saturday mornings. In some homes Saturday morning is "everyone for himself." But if you know he likes having breakfast made for him, then by all means, put together a simple meal in the morning.
- Sit down with him while he eats--even if all you do is nurse a cup of coffee, sit and talk to him or watch soccer from another continent with him if that's how he likes his Saturday breakfast. God said, "It is not good for man to be alone."
- Ask him what he plans to do today--might be a big switch from that Saturday "honey-do" list!
- Then ask: What can I do to make it easier?--Then do what you can cheerfully.
- Let him overhear you telling one of the kids, or a friend of yours, how much you appreciate your husband for __________. This could be anything from not demanding a perfect house to playing with the kids to working hard to provide for you to making you feel like the most beautiful woman in the world. Tell someone what you appreciate about that man you are married to.
- Tell him directly, too--at some point during the day, mention to him how much you appreciate it that he __________.
- Make a dinner he really likes--even if he's watching his weight or cholesterol, just today let him have a meal you know he'll enjoy. And no nagging about how much he eats (at least not on today!)
- Eat that dinner together as a family--clue your kids into this being a meal you really want to have together, "for dad's sake."
- Work hard to not criticize him in any way today.
- Don't tell him that this is "Husband Appreciation Day." Just let him enjoy the attention.
- Find one way to let him know he's appreciated every day this week. Then stretch it to the end of the month. See if you can make appreciating your husband a habit.
I would not like to suggest that you do these things with an ulterior motivation, but the fact is that when you treat someone nicely, they will most often treat you that way, too.
A soft answer turns away wrath.
And if you don't want think of it as a way of getting what you want, then think of it as obedience to Christ.
Treat others the same way you want them to treat you.
Luke 6:31 (NASB)
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