Wednesday, September 5, 2018

Caught in a Downpour

As I listened with half an ear to the park ranger at the Ben Franklin Court tell the story of that famous man, the rest of me was occupied with following my active two year old granddaughter on that hot and humid August day. (Active two year old is redundant, don't you think?) About half way through the very interesting lecture the skies opened and the rain poured down. We all ran for the printshop.


A little later, in the courtyard in front of Betsy Ross' house, I asked my daughter what I looked like after being rained on. "Like you got caught in a downpour, Mom," she said with a smile. Then my husband leaned over and, with a kiss, said, "Even more beautiful than this day thirty-six years ago when I married you!" Yes, we were sweltering and soaking in Philadelphia with our daughter, German son-in-law, and granddaughter on our thirty-sixth anniversary. But family is part of the reason we got married, and definitely, the result of it!

But we did get a private, romantic celebration about one week later back in Pennsylvania after spending time in New Jersey and New York City and saying good bye to the family traveling back to Germany. By then we were headed home so we were in western Pennsylvania where we found a nice hotel and a tavern built in 1762 for a fun and delicious dinner.

We believe it is important to celebrate our marriage, not only on the anniversary, but all year long, because a marriage that works is a marvelous thing. And, by God's grace, ours works.

Here are some more reasons to celebrate your marriage:(Disclaimer: I don't know who most of these people who said these things are, so I don't know if I like their whole philosophy of life, but I like these quotes. Let me know which is your favorite!)

  • A wedding anniversary is the celebration of love, trust, partnership, tolerance and tenacity. The order varies for any given year.   -- Paul Sweeney
  • A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. -- Mignon McLaughlin
  • Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads, which sew people together through the years.  -- Simone Signoret
  • A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.   -- Dave Meurer
  • There is no more lovely, friendly and charming relationship, communion or company than a good marriage. -- Martin Luther
  • Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her,...that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless....This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church. -- the Apostle Paul.

As much as I promote family meals, I  believe it is important to make sure that husbands and wives spend time alone together on a regular basis--not just their anniversary--so they can have a good relationship beyond discussing the children. Husbands and wives need to be more than co-parents. 

My husband and I are partners, lovers, and as cliche as it sounds, best friends. When our children were small, our "date night" was collapsing in front of a recording of some 80s TV show with a delivered pizza on Sunday night after a full day of ministry and children. When they were all in school my husband's office was in our house so lunch was "our" time whether we ate out or in. After we moved back to the states ten years ago, with three teens in and out of the house, we got coffee at a bookstore/coffee shop on Tuesday nights. 


And anniversaries weren't always dinner out or a night in a hotel. On our twelfth anniversary we had just bought our first house and had our fourth baby, so there was no money to go out to eat. We put the kids to bed and I made beef stroganoff. I dressed up and did my make-up and hair. My husband put on some soft music and we lit the candles. You know what, we can't remember what we have done on a lot of anniversaries, but we remember that one because we made it special.

Today, there is no one we would rather spend time with, talk to, or do things with as a result of making time for "us" for thirty-six years. 

As the Apostle Paul said, marriage is an illustration for the world to see of Christ's relationship to the church, an intimate relationship where the husband loves his wife in a sacrificial way and the wife respects her husband for who he is. And that illustration is a goal worth working towards, rain or shine.

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  1. We celebrated our silver wedding anniversary earlier this year, not bad as everyone gave us 6 months when we first got together #inspareationspotlight@_karendennis

  2. Happy Anniversary! Celebrate every day!
    We are in our forthirth decade of marriage and cherish our times together more than ever.

  3. What a beautiful love story. I love all the quotes, but perhaps my favorite is the one about imperfect couple enjoying the differences. My husband and I are getting ready to celebrate our 20th anniversary. It is a second marriage for both of us, so we really appreciate what we have this time around. For the last several years, we have celebrated our anniversary by eating at Ruth's Chris Steakhouse and spending the weekend at the Grand America, a beautiful hotel downtown. I found your post at the GRAND Social.

    1. The imperfect couple quote is a good one. In this day of social media we think if we don't have it perfect we don't have it. But that's not true at all.

  4. Such a beautiful couple, and story. Congrats on your anniversary! Thanks for stopping by to share this with us at the Inspiration Spotlight party. I always like stopping by it brightens my day. Theresa @DearCreatives



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